Sorry
Sorry if I am sorta neglecting the league and blog a bit. It's been a really rough week-weekend.
The boy is totally out of control. Takes so much energy just to deal with him every day. Love the hell out of him but this is getting ridiculous. Ever since the start of school he is staying up too late, not listening to anyone, getting combative if you tell him to do things. It just drains the hell out of everyone.
Wife got so upset this weekend at his behavior and him and his sister fighting that she yelled at them both and told them she was sending them away to boarding school. My daughter freaked out over that big time. Since she still sleeps in the Wife's bed.. she is really attached to her. So much so she can not even stand being away from her for a few hours. Whenever the Wife tries to go out with friends my daughter texts her "when you coming home". So obviously the threat of not seeing mom for a week at a time really flipped her out.
Sunday night the boy pissed her the wife off again so bad she went crying into her room.
The stress is killing me. I am done with this. I took Friday off work and did not want to go in today either. Just played video games for like 24 hours a day all weekend with the exception of watching one of the boys football games.
On the good side the wife said this is the boys last year at his high school. She is going to find him a school for people with dyslexia and ADHD and other learning disabilities. Actually this weekend she threatened to have him committed to a residential housing facility. You know the places they send retarded kids so they can learn to take care of themselves. At least I can feel a little less guilt about making the kids switch schools. If it is going to happen anyways... still hurts though.
Appointment with shrink is next week. I am kind of looking forward to it. Clock is racing as to whether I have a heart attack, mental breakdown, or meet with the shrink first. Judging by my past luck I am assuming that Gary and I will be sharing a room soon.
posted by SirFWALGMan at
8:39 AM
5 Comments:
Man...take care of yourself...
10:16 AM
Ack! I can't imagine threatening to kick a kid out of the house has a positive outcome on him. Establish a bed time and then stick to it. Talk to him when its nonconfrontational and no one is yelling and screaming. Like early in the evening. Explain that he has to get his school stuff ready at 9:30 and lights out by 10pm. Explain that you're doing this for him and then at 9:30 gently enforce it.
In my house one end of the dining room table is for evan's school stuff. He puts his backpack, sweatshirt, id, phone, wallet and whatever every night before he goes to bed so in the morning its easy to grab it all and its all packed.
Even though he's yelling and screaming he needs help, not punishment but help. he's screaming for it.
10:24 AM
Learning Prep School in Newton.
Landmark is another on in the area.
10:31 AM
Look, Dufus,
Most here (me 2) would be blubbering or catatonic living your life. You are doing better than you imagine. OK, it isn't winning prizes but you cope. Gotta say you have my respect.
And, mention the boy early in you session with the shrink. Then, sleeping habits. She may give you a medal.
2:26 PM
First, you rock! You'll never know how much. Any step at this point is a plus, even a misstep, cause staying in place sure ain't working. With respect to the boy, stop everything and become his shadow. Time for bed? Go with him, sit on his bed, talk about his day, your day, stare at each other, whatever, til he tells you to get the hell out. Fighting with his sister? Have him come out of the room to do something with you as soon as it starts. Take a walk, shoot some hoops. It's exhausting but engage him every minute until he gives you the cue that he wants to be alone and will behave while he is. It's not as exhausting as living in a combat zone.
4:07 PM
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