Thursday, February 16, 2012


I took the day off and got a lawyer. Going to cost me 3K in escrow to hire the firm. I think it is probably a good idea. The lawyer seems pretty good. I kind of like her. Have no idea how to see if a lawyer is a ballah or a C- student though.

Really going to suck because I know we do not have the flex in the budget to just spend 3K... but I did not start this. On the good side the papers I was served with were supposed to be served by the 10th of Feb and I just got them today.... sooooo... this might mean they are invalid. heh. Gonna have to catch me again baby!

Also the lawyer said her complaint is total bullshit and will not stand up in any court of law. She said I should probably get therapy for myself so I can prove to the court I am no threat to anyone and am getting help.

She told me that my wife HAD to have hired a lawyer and put money in escrow. The court does not provide free lawyers for people making the money she does... So those were a few good things to know.

She also said mediation hardly ever works well because you still need a lawyer to check what your going to agree to because mediators can not offer advice. They must be neutral.

Stomache is aching, energy drained, back pains... I probably can avoid this whole thing by dying of a heart attack, I am sure Lightbulb can give me some tips. hmmm Bacon Double Cheezeburger is calling! Peace.


Blogger KenP said...

But you are making good decisions and hard ones at that.

Bravo!!! WPOM!

1:00 PM

Blogger lightning36 said...

Eat that cheeseburger and then chase it with six or seven Cokes. Do this every day and then contact me in a year ...

2:15 PM

Blogger DuggleBogey said...

Keep up the good work man. Believe me I know it's tough.

The best thing you can do for your kids in their lives is to give them a happy father. Your kids will know if you are miserable and having an unhappy parent is worse than having to change schools. You don't know what will happen if they do, it might be great and they could find new friends that last their whole lives.

Don't go thinking you can fool your kids into thinking you're not unhappy. You cannot sacrifice your happiness just for them. It doesn't work and they just end up screwed up worse.

Don't use it as an excuse not to move on with your life. You are a great guy and can tell the difference between a woman that is good for you or not. Find a good one that makes you happy and makes you feel good about yourself and everything and everyone in your life will be better off for it. No good woman is going to get involved in your situation the way it is.

The process is tough as hell and sucks, but it is very very worth it. You need to move on. Take your life back. You deserve it.

Fuck the money. Money is worthless if you're not happy. Nobody is going to starve. You'll get through it. When it's done, everyone wins.

2:23 PM

Blogger AgSweep said...

Bravo on hiring counsel. Seems like you have been given sound advice thus far to me.

There is a common misconception that people have to prove what they say in court, this is not always true, and mostly not true at all in family court. People can say whatever they want and you may have to prove it is not so. But usually that is not so hard to do. So don't get your undies in bundle if lies are told. Just present the facts. It doesn't take long for the court to figure out whose version is more reliable even if it seems like they don't get it at first. This is not their first rodeo.

Divorce is a process best handled with calm, patience and paperwork to back up your side. Contrary to what you see on TV courts hate drama.

2:48 PM

Blogger grrouchie said...

You've made me hungry for a Jack in the Box Ultimate Bacon Cheeseburger.
Seriously hungry, craving it.

6:23 PM


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